Being an introvert is very hard, especially in a world that keeps talking. Socializing may sound easy to most people but to an introvert it’s hell. Here in this article, we look at five ways to fit into this talk-oriented world, while still retaining your true personality. If you are an introvert, this is a must-read for you;
1. Always Start Small And Simple:
You have to start small and be easy on yourself. Forget about the pressure people put on you to conform too quickly, your introvert personality is not a problem. Take things step by step, be gradual about your decisions to become social. Make a friend for a month, go out for a few events. With time you will get used to social events and making friends.
2. Keep Your Mind Open:
Learn to be more open about yourself and mix freely with others, I know it’s hard but you can try. Relax your standards a little, don’t judge people too soon. Sometimes the first impression may not be the true attitude of the person. That a person wears designer clothes or luxury cars does not mean he is rich, in fact, he or she could be in debt. If you don’t like the character or personality of an individual don’t force yourself to, feel free to move on and make new friends.
In all learn to Study people closely before making judgments about them.
3. Take The First Step – Make A Friend:
Don’t be afraid to re-invent the wheel, as an introvert you may not be lucky enough to have people or even friends that are totally into you, still, that is not an excuse. Be the first to reach out to them, show them that you truly care, a call asking about their welfare is not too much. You could even set a date to make new friends or reunite with your old friends especially if you’ve been away for quite some time. They will surely appreciate your kind gestures and even replicate them.
They are your friends, aren’t they?
4. It Is Not About You, It Is About Them:
Learn to talk less about yourself when you are with friends, it is not attractive. Always remember this principle, ‘it is not about you, it is about them’.
Try to be casual, ask questions as simple as “where do you stay”, or “what do you do during your free time”. The strategy is to create topics and make the conversation going. Do you know that in sales, the person who asks the question is in control?.
Continue asking questions it makes you appear more ready to learn about them, you could, in fact, act naive!.
Who says innocence is bad?
5. Building Ongoing Relationship:
After you have done all this and made new friends, it is time for you to decide if you want to keep the relationship or not. Sometimes, you may have to let go of some friends because their personalities and characters are just not to your liking. Negativity is a no-no, so don’t tolerate it because you want to make new friends. You don’t have to be desperate about making friends, once you get to know what type of people they are, choose to either spend more time to grow the relationship or spend less time on it.
It may not be easy to find a good friend who can understand you and truly care about you. But when you do, spend more time to grow the relationship.